Review of 'The Truth About Us' by Brant Hansen

:: I paid full price for my copy of 'The Truth About Us'. This is not a purchased review or review for trade. ::



Full Disclosure: Even after all the personally affronting, bracing-like-cold-water truths he felt compelled to share in 'The Truth About Us', Brant Hansen is going to have to try much, much harder to get me to "unsubscribe" from his personal brand.



However, I cannot keep this man's books on my shelves - here's why:



As a long time listener and reviewer of previous books, I can't look away from the puppet-driven Hansen train as it plows happily through our comfort zones and leaves us asking pitifully for more accordion.



In 'Unoffendable', Brant checks the mic: "Testing, testing, 3...2...1 - you have no right to be angry but you're not the only one"



In 'Blessed are the Misfits', Hansen raises the house lights: "Look around, all quirky, jaded and flawed souls, we do not misfit alone."



And now, in 'The Truth About Us' Brant Hansen looks our vulnerable misfit crowd in the eyes and delivers hard truths as he best knows how, factually and to the point: "You guys aren't actually all that good" he says "but... turns out,  neither am I."



2nd Full Disclosure: The truths in Brant's new book aren't new truths, but they are often unpopular, untouched truths, the kind with a tendency to scald once spilled. Along comes Hansen, puppets for pot-holders, willing to handle and spill for all.



This brings me to the one running problem I have had with Hansen's books reaching all the way back to 'Unoffendable' and the reason I don't keep his books on my shelves to this day:  I cannot  keep his books on my shelves. 


Oh, sure - they visit, maybe spend spend the night or a few, but I can never keep them shelf-stable for long. Before I've reached the end, I always have someone- usually several people- in line to share them with. No matter how many copies I've purchased, they always find their way into another's hands.



I recommend a digital copy of your own and a lending copy for friends.



As Brant has pointed out, we are prone to forgetfulness. Keeping a copy of Brant's words around is like having a letter of encouragement in your pocket from a sincere,  on-demand friend.





'The Truth About Us' contains bad news, but Bran't won't leave you to squirm alone... and he won't leave you without some very good news, too.










Kate's Writing Challenge #3







This week's task was to write 5 sentences then leave them alone (til they come back home...to roost in my brain with stories that won't be denied)  


This is another activity reminiscent of all that I learned in #TheArtistWay but only practice sporadically.  I have come to think of these little fragments as 'ThoughtStrings" and keep a folder for them on my phone, too. 


I wrote more than 5, but I think its okay. 





Five Sentences For Kate: (+ 2 for me) 




  1. The unexpected  arrives on an ordinary day, one just like all the days before it.

  2. Dear Eve, the lowhanging fruit is always bitter. 

  3. Her walls went up, invisible but fully electrified by the tripwire of his careless words. 

  4. Nunjas deflect temptation by habit, using nunchucks to keep their suitors away. 

  5. Along the way, you choose more carefully because hindsight is ever before you. 

  6. LutherAnn half expected to turn into a pillar of salt as she thumbed through the old scrapbook one last time before throwing it away; the trash would be picked up tomorrow morning. 

  7. Heaven is this simple declaration: 'We will all be friends.' 







Kate's Writing Challenge #2





Writing Task #2 was to choose a writing 'accountability' partner, so I tagged my friend Brad over @ BradWhittington.com.



This fella has been Encyclopedia Brittanica (A-Z)  to my wide eyed wading out into the world. Once upon a very long time ago, he was just a random human in a chat room for grown-up PK's, but now he is a true confidant and my go-to guy when it comes to writing.



He is working on a new project, so I stay accountable and in the loop. It's working out nicely.

That Kate is full of good ideas.

The Decade Challenge: March 2010


In March of 2010, we were just returning from Islamorada. When we were in town, we explored the nearby parks and trails. I used my amateur marketing skills to mock up drafts for professionals to print. Easter @ The DeLaigle became a favorite family tradition.



















Kate's Writing Challenge #1 (continued) :The Old Neighborhood



As part of Kate DiCamillo's writing challenge during this quarantine season, she encouraged writing one page a day.





This is a practice I started back when I went through Eva Shaw's Writeriffic course online and as I worked my way through The Artist's Way in that class. 





As with all good habits, it can be easy to let daily writing fall by the wayside, but this season has found creative types spurring each other on in continued creativity. I had already purposed to use this season for "getting back on the writing wagon" but the videos and encouragement of fellow creatives have helped me maintain that intent through the doldrums of days that bleed into one another for lack of enough structure. 





So- I probably won't share every day I write down, who wants to decipher my sloppy handwriting? Definitely not me. But I will transcribe at least the first day where I finally made good on my promise to myself to 'get back to it' - editing all the way. 





One Page of Writing: 





The Old Neighborhood 





It's a nice old neighborhood, lined with trees older than any of the people living there.  Every once in awhile, one of those tall, tall trees may lose its footing and tumble into one of the homes of the humans below, causing families to relocate for a season or forever-  while men with chainsaws dismembered the old saint for cremation. 





Tumbling trees can't help it of course. They mean no harm at all. Becoming wobbly is a part of the aging process;  the elderly growing especially tipsy when the wind blows through with a summer squall. 





Still, it's a nice old neighborhood, lined with tall old trees that barely fall. 





It's a nice old neighborhood, lined with little cottage homes. Every once in a while, one of those small cottage homes burst into flames. The fire department can be there in four minutes flat. They poke and prod and sift through ash, proclaiming the wires  as old as the trees, and twice as shaky. 





The incontinence of stretched-thin wires is no fault of their own, just another part of accumulating years. So insurance repairs the charred out parts - but only the charred parts- leaving the wiring of other wings to bide their combustible time.





Still, it's a nice old neighborhood, lined with friendly cottage homes, hardly ever on fire. 




It's a nice old neighborhood, quiet without much noise at all. The tall trees buffering the little cottage homes, muffling sounds from the busy roads adjacent.  Station 12's  race with Station 4 to be the first to respond or the occasional peal from a too- sensitive and wind-tickled warehouse alarm, alerting that a mischievous breeze has been spotted. The pizza joint's dumpster is changed out twice monthly, the clanging metal and beeping trucks always before the sun but never - hardly ever - before five.



Spring and Summer bring mowers and blowers, but most lawns allow complete dandelion takeover, the symphony of their fluff scattering orchestration made complete by wind through the pine curtain and birds belting out complex tunes.



Grandfathered-in yard fowl, predating the city's expanding limits, have crowned a lone crooner the neighborhood watch. He crows his alarm when daylight sneaks in, repeating his broadcast at dusk.




It's a nice old neighborhood with no crime to speak of, unless you count herbal use without prescription. Neighbors who've in the past brushed up against the law now mulch their gardens with wild oat remains, smiling and waving as they walk their Maggie dog, a good girl who only looks ferocious.



Every once in a while, a neighbor may lose their footing and stumble against hard times through no fault of their own, or very much their own fault. It doesn't matter either way.  Neighbors rebuild neighbors and bide their time together.




Misboxed mail will be returned and treats are baked to share. Basketball goals are communal and front porch lights fend off the night for kids on bikes; someone is always home.



Still, it is a nice old neighborhood, filled with neighbors that never make the six o'clock news, repeated again at eleven; where the door is always open, the coffee always on. Of course you can borrow this or that, what's mine is yours to have.






It is a nice old neighborhood, and now my own. Prodigal lot, wild oats full grown. I mulch my garden and sweep the steps, there is a welcome mat at both doors.  A roof, three bedrooms and running water, I have shelter in this transitional storm.



Cousins, siblings, uncles and aunts, many have rested their wings here before me. I knew these walls I now call home before as just a guest. My Granny bought this family nest with accumulated savings, knowing many of us would eventually need saving.



From the same big window, we've all watched for trees that may drop in for a visit, and wondered if the flickering lights were warning us of danger. We share a familial sneezing, pollen showers unrelenting. Year after year, we've battled genealogical poison ivy vines and the encroaching encampments of dragon ants, tiny bites of fire. We've fought the drains and fixed the screens, the porch, the tub and pipes, we've all been startled from our sleep by homeless cats in choirs. Someday the trees will reclaim it all, their roots winning ground as their limbs canvas the air.



It's a nice old neighborhood, quiet and lined with tall pine trees and small friendly cottages. The cul-de-sac overflows with captured memories and the highway's on-ramp nearby invites us to spread our wings and fly. I live here now, I may not always. But for this time and this family home, I am deeply grateful. 





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Kate's Writing Challenge #1





I had purposed to use some of this quarantine time to do that which I love to do: write & create.

I believe those of us whose souls soar on creativity all heard the same call. And so, by the time I saw that Kate was sharing her light with reader and writer friends online, I had already begun. But it is the sharing of encouragement and the motivation of creative friends all around me that have kept me keeping on.






  • Week 1 for Kate's Quarantine Camp: Write one page a day (fellow ArtistWay alum? Could be.) 

  • Write a letter to someone, real or imagined. 



My Letter To Mr. Rogers: 





Dear Mr. Rogers, 


Thank you for sitting with me when Momma had chores to do. Thank you for explaining things - even very basic things - instead of assuming I knew. You saved me from having to ask aloud, which was sometimes a hard thing to do.  Thank you for never pulling mean pranks or going for a low-hanging laugh. You were never a coarse friend, or bully. Thank you for not being too big to play and imagine, for granting me permission to do the same. Thank you for tiny little joyful things, like Trolley's bell and Daniel Strip-ed Tiger's teeny-tiny watch. Thank you for the stability of routine: feeding fish and changing shoes, for showing me there's no rush and things are worth doing well. Thank you for surprising things, like songs that don't always rhyme,  my poems do not either. Thank you for showing me how stuff works, and how a man gets turned into The Hulk. You live in a world of miniature houses, friendly neighbors and imagination come to life! Thank you for allowing myself to be me and for just your being you. 





With Abiding Admiration, 


~Kelly



I've been watching old episodes and I really loved this scene from the closing of one of his shows:
















My one page entry will be posted on its own page. (HERE) 




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